Just for dads - A true execption to the rule

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Finally a web site that addresses the needs of single on a fair even basis. And it only took 12 years to find, ironically I was researching entirely different subject-matter when I came across this website. Its called Just For Dads (for more info CLICK HERE) and that's exactly what it is in every aspect. The site does a great job of dealing with fatherhood from every aspect. And also offers and offers a nice complete unbiased list of resources to fathers of all  kinds. The articles offered in their blog are very well written and offers a nice complete amount of information on the subject at hand.

So its not $3 you call it night?

A good example of the type of material the site offers (free) for the modern-father to benefit from include an article that gives a great amount of information to any father on the sensitive subject of discipline. The article is a great piece writing that honestly examines the subject in today's terms and under the "new" guidelines of Child "Discipline" as it exist in today's society. To read the article first hand CLICK HERE! however you perceive the article you should as a single-father in some way, shape or form benefit from the knowledge offered.

A complete all-in-one do-it-yourself Child Custody Strategy Deluxe Package - For both Men and Women

 GUEST POST 

       My name is Richard Andres and I am a single father of two. As you can guess the Divorce was bad and the issue of the children was even worse. I missed my kids and  just didn't have the tens of thousands of dollars it took to undergo a court battler for custody and support. I asked Cassius' Daddy if he had any cost-effective solutions for a father that wanted to maintain a healthy relationship with his children. He immediately suggested Child Custody Strategies for Men and Women Deluxe Package Maybe one of the most thorough packages I've seen on Child Custody. It even contains the forms needed to file throughout the process. 

 Do It Yourself Child Custody Package - Deluxe Edition

Authored By Two World Famous Child Custody Experts, Dr.Barry Bricklin & Dr.Gail Elliot-3000 Pages-the Biggest & The Best! Answers Every Question-covers Every Custody Topic-includes All the Legal Forms you will need as well. So click on the link above "deluxe edition" and take a look at the website that made the difference  in my Child Custody Case "I won!" And stay tuned to Cassius' Daddy the man gives good advice. 

R Andres - Custodial parent, Father of 2 :-)

Shared Parenting

   As we all know children need both parents actively in their lives. It seems as though finally the courts systems of America are finally acknowledging this fact as well. As you may know a number of states including Florida, Arkansas, Georgia and several more are finally taking steps to enact laws that would actually make it easier for fathers to obtain rights owed to them as fathers. So make sure you check your state for any updates on custody and visitation laws. Things may now be in your favor.
    I have recently discovered a virtual "Gold Mine"  of information in relation to fatherhood at a site called American Coalition of Fathers and Children    A non-profit web site so be sure and donate if possible. The information on the site is priceless (and free) so try and help if you can. One of the single most helpful tools I obtained from the site was the ACFC Shared Parenting Tool Kit.  This toolkit has every aspect of Shared Parenting covered from every angle. Amazingly it is totally free to download (click the underlined link above) in a .PDF form. An easy download to your desktop, Pad, Tablet or Cell Phone. This tool kit much to my delight provides complete thorough answers to so many questions that many, if not all trained professionals, specialist and/or attorneys would charge a handsome fee to divulge. So make sure you download it as there is a little bit of something in there for father. Once you download it be sure and read over Chapters 3,4, &5 they contain info any and every father should know. They do an excellent job of relating to both the father and the son both on the same level of understanding.
     So please benefit from the non-profit information contained here for you and every other father searching for a genuine and honest relationship with his children.

You are special...You are someone's Father

Cassius' Daddy
Custody Info  - this link contains Great Child Custody strategies for both men and women. Authored By Two World Famous Child Custody Experts, Dr.barry Bricklin & Dr.gail Elliot-3000 Pages-the Biggest & The Best! Answers Every Question-covers Every Custody Topic-includes All Legal Forms! 

 

Child Support...A Daddy's Perspective

Can  A Daddy get a fair break on Child Support

     It has been sometime since I had to deal with this issue and I don't miss it. Unfortunately it only seems to be getting worse. As I speak with fathers today they are seemingly going through the same issue, child support. The majority of the fathers I spoke with told me the courts had not updated their records sometimes for decades. Now what this means is your standard of living may have changed in either direction. Now for some reason whenever a father standard of living changes in the positive direction where he earns more than the last time there was an official "review" by the child support courts. The mother does an excellent job of informing the courts that the father is indeed to have support payments increased. Yet when the fathers standard of living declines no one is the wiser. And there can be many legitimate reasons for such a thing to happen. You could become disabled and lose all source of revenue as you are unable to work. Yet even though this happens if you the father don't follow (to the letter) this long tedious and sometime expensive process to have your case "reviewed" your payments still stack up arrears.I find it almost impossible to have these arrears waived or removed even if you show cause to the court. It has happened in a few cases I've researched but not a lot. 
    The secret is to file for both joint legal and physical custody of your child. The mom is not going to like it and it  maybe a fight. Joint is just that Joint everything down the middle. In my opinion there's a better chance of going for joint custody than letting years of arrears stack up on you. As they will get their money! I have seen child support being deducted from SSDI Disability! So depending on the circumstances try and file for visitation and Summer custody as well. If this is plausible as far location and resources is concerned. So make sure you stay on top of your child support situation as they can get out of had very quickly plus the fact that each state seems to different laws on the subject. So when/if the mother takes the child and heads out of state make sure you keep the "Venue" where you are.

Hopes this helps
Cassius' Daddy

I'm Here

               As the title suggest I'm here and always has been for my son I mean. .We come to another cross roads in life, a hard one the kind that do well with. All that's needed now is the truth nothing more. The honesty of communication will patch the bridge where it needs to patched. The roadway of communication will be strengthened and everyone will receive as well as give adequate fair information.
                The optimistic point of view will be utilized early and often in situations that involve trust and commitment. "I'm here" is a term to be used and understood  in all aspects of fatherhood. As long as a child knows that his father is there he will always as though the possibilities are limitless, as long he knows. When you can relay to your son that you will be there always in all aspects mentally, physically and spiritually then it is my belief that they will go from a point of dependence to one of imitation. The transformation this is manhood in it's earliest form. And remember that imitation is in fact the sincerest form of flattery.

Skate, Shop and Live!

The new motto for teens today as told to me by my own son. Is this is all we as parents have to live for; to work, pay and feed? I'm still waiting on an answer.

The definition of it...

                        As a father to what extent do we give? The more I learn as a father the more I see as a man. I don't know if I could have really understood the sacrifices my own father made had I not become one myself. I mean this on many different levels as having somebody that YOU are responsible for really changes perspective on life. A life lived up to that point solely for you. For me it was the first time I really got to see a part of me. This was my son and I was his father and it would be this way for the rest of our lives.
                         As a man to what extent does our fatherhood reflect on our manhood? Does it really take a man to raise a boy? I personally don't know. I would have ask then... who was ready to be a father.  Trick question as no man is ready to be a father. Only when you see you do began to realize that it is the most unique experience a man will ever have. This is when all of your self-serving planning has been deemed useless. All of the motivation you once had for self sustaining reasons have now changed direction. You are a father.

A FATHER AND SON CREATING AND CULTIVATING A RELATIONSHIP

Well it's been a while but I'm back! I'm ready to write from a new perspective. I believe I'm in the transition phase of going from Cassius' Daddy to Cassius' father. The change itself is very interesting in itself as I have little or no control over it's progress or direction. I can just sense the the difference in values as time move on. The things that were once a high priority can now be demoted while things that were not a factor before suddenly not only matter but matter a great deal.

As a daddy me and my son did things together as a way of bonding. As a father we interact on more of a man to man level. As my son continues to grow in size so does his curiosity. The time is at hand where he must get the proper advice on how to be who he is to be when the time comes. As his father as a man I have an obligation to provide to the best of my ability these answers to satisfy his curiosity. Since the down side would be him finding out without me. As this world we live in is a cold place. It could easily wipe away my Cassius without a trace.

As I stated before things are very interesting as they change. I personally appreciate the parental perspective. Remembering the same time in life when the “shoe was on the other foot” so to speak is a very humbling yet helpful experience. This is the time we call our own parents and express the “full circle” of life as we can now both appreciate and relate to them as parents. Closure has been granted. The veil has been ripped away the bigger picture can now be viewed. As parents ourselves we understand now why own parents did the things they did. Which to use back then as kids made no sense. To one day have kids of your own and understand actions of your own parents could be defined as a definite point of maturity in life or simply payback!

As we interact and reciprocate from one another I truly believe that me and my son will develop a relationship that will culminate into the one thing I desire most with him, a friendship. As I already both know and take for granted that I am already both “hip and cool” I am simply waiting on him to catch up to the rhythm.

The diagnosing of America's Children

Do we really remember how we as children were raised. I'm speaking of the just this last generation, the 1950's. If you ever look at the old Television shows from that era they never refer to an out-of-control child or societal problems that have the child acting in such a disrespectful manner as to cause the parents concern. It seems that last generation was the last time everyone including the child knew it was wrong to be disrespectful. There were no exceptions or conditions in which we could slip through the cracks or challenge a stated fact. This is when children were children and adults were in control.
     The most overlooked fact in today's society is that "it is not the job nor responsibility of the teacher to discipline your children". In theory (which worked for generations up until the 60's no less) your children arrived at school or any social function or event pre-trained, so to speak. nothing was interrupted as it is today because of discipline issue's. Children were seen not heard, there were however windows when the child would have the chance to express him/herself. This to was done in a respectful fashion usually with permission and a stage in which to express. This is not a temper tantrum where the parents have to actually bribe their children to get out of the store. Why is it that today's children are far more insistent than just a generation ago. I'll tell you why, they have been diagnosed and diagnosed and diagnosed and medicated and incorrectly assessed by our Psychologist and Psychiatrist and Physicians that they are pretty well doped-up to the point were they are being prepped for drug use and abuse at a young age. We all know for a fact that the doctors in our society have close knit ties with the pharmaceutical giants that benefit from all of their suggestions and recommendations based on their analysis of  or your children. this is scary in itself. Who remembers the famous medical phrase of not too long ago; "I think I'll get a second opinion." Unfortunately in today's medical circles this same statement has become an insult instead of the comparative analysis value it once  held. Doctor's now take a personal offense to the mere suggestion of a second opinion. They make it seem as if a second opinion would damage this strong, tight patient-doctor bond (that doesn't really exist) almost as if infidelity had occurred. This is what guilt's most parents into accepting the doctors suggestion of medications that can only treat the problem since it hereditary and cannot never be cured. A genetic disposition probably acquired from the parent that is not there! Is how the doctor's diagnose it in today's medical profession In reality you and your child are simply a product something that can be sold a problem as well as a cure. .
   The diagnoses, I can tell you and I wasn't even there...It was some kind of deficiency or disorder right! That's because that is what every child in today's society is being diagnosed with. Attention deficit or Hyperactive something to the effect that it has to be treated in order for the child to remain a part of normal society. This is the hook since this is after all what the parent really want, a normal child it's the reason they are there in the first place.  Just remember the only outlet for the pharmaceutical giants are doctor's and therapist. So chance s are if you visit a Doctor's office you will be prescribed something.
   The real solution...in conclusion the only way to cure any disorder of this nature is to understand the nature of the child not the disorder or the lack of. We all know and understand that that a child will go through their terrible two's. A period in which they learn the demanding nature of the human intellect. When they literally learn to be bad. This is key, this is also the most crucial point in the discipline process since this is were they learn for the first time also what boundaries mean. I mean did you ever see children two and three years old being pushed around in strollers as we do today a generation ago? Set boundaries that your children cannot cross period. Give fair and stern warning as to when things are both going to begin as well as come to an end. I mean reinforce in a child's mind things like "when you turn two your going to have to give up the pacifier". Prepare your children for change don't lie to them or hide the truth they will always resent you for it later. We all as parents seem to forget that one day our own kids will have kids! So be honest and up front in how you deal with your children and you will receive the same in return, for the most part.  Explain things to your children not only what they mean but also how they relate in society. Place value on valuable things teach your children about the things that matter most in our society such as financial responsibility, importance of education and so on. A crystal ball would be a very appropriate gift for parents, at least this way we would get to see we were dealing with future adults and the old-fashioned way did work and still does!

Christmas is it too early to consider...

          With fall slowly approaching we all tend to think about the holidays.. And when we do think about the holidays nothing makes them complete except the children. The Christmas toy, the single most important aspect in a child's life. To a child this is the culmination of the previous years actions. This will once and for all prove that It was worth it for me to behave. So parents start early and try and get your kids what they deserve as opposed to what you can afford. It is not something new it's merely sacrifice and we can all do it. After all how many of us still remember which presents we received for Christmas even though it was many many years ago?

Parent - A special kind of person

As I myself live and provide for a child each day I come to see what a Parent means, in the true sense of the word. As a child we seldom realize the sacrifices and true issues behind circumstances. We often misinterpret a lot as we don't have the knowledge nor the experience at such a young age to know the difference. Most important as an adult we must out away childish things and step into the reality of adulthood. The responsibility of maturity comes with both rewards as well as drawbacks. As times seem to get back to what we know as normal we can once again be proud of the Parent a special kind of person. I give my own parents a lot of credit for teaching me the things i needed to know well before I needed to know them, I was prepared. So on this Patriots day I would like to give a special thanks out to all the parents that have done the right thing and remained a part of their children s lives in some way shape or form.

There actually is a good chance of your teenager becoming a Pro Skateboarder!

Over this past summer my son would not change his mind about his career choice whenever I asked him. He stuck to his guns. "I want to be a professional Skateboarding!" He would always answer gladly. So I did some research of my own and to my surprise I found his choice of careers to be quite interesting. After some light research I found out that Pro Skateboardingis a fast-growing profession. I found it to be the one thing many kids still have in common today and like any other profession if they do show exceptional talent the rewards are always worth it! So take a little time and learn the Professional side of Skateboarding and see if it's something you should support your child in. By taking a few minutes to listen and a little more time to learn a few things about Skateboarding on my own I have to say I do support my son a lot more in his chosen profession. For more info on  Proffesional Skateboarding Click Here!

The Summer is over and now it's back to school

The Summer was a fun as we knew it. i got to spen a lot of time with my son. I was there when he turned 13, a teenager! I was as happy as he was i believe. we had a lot of fun through playing sports, watching TV, talking, joking all together. To me it was the best summer of my life. The best part is that he has to go back to school not me!

Cassius The Stock Brocker

Today I showed my son the way stocks work. We may have a stock broker in the making!

Cassius The Cook

So i asked my son what he wanted to be when he grew up. His answer was a little surprising as he wanted to only work for someone and earn a paycheck. I asked about his entrepreneurship to which he responded "it seems like a lot of work". I went on to explain that the satisfaction is well worth it. So we came up with a compromise...I took him to the grocery store and explained to him that he was now in charge of cooking for the both of us. i asked him if he would ever consider becoming a professional cook. He seemed interested and agreed to the deal. I went on to explain to him that he would be in charge of the kitchen in all aspects as if it was his own work space. So far so good!

Our summer Together

So we have begun our summer together. the boy was successfully dropped off to me and we immediately picked up where we left off as father and son. the effect was also obvious to those close to me as well. many of my associates asked me if something had went well for me as my demeanor had changed recently. On a few occasions I explained that I was now back in the daily presence of my boy. I went on to explain how I liked being with my boy and we how we bonded immediately.  The Summer is upon us and we must have fun!

How am I going to raise my child?

How am I going to raise my child? 
        If this is a question for potential as well as future parents. Then fear no more! Seems the only logical way to raise a child in a world gone GREEN would be Organically! Take a quick look into this new and proven method being used everyday by parents worldwide.For a little more information Click Here!  
Here you can clearly see the benefits of raising a healthy child, both physically and mentally. a lot of the methods mentioned i personally endorse as well as practice. So take it from me and raise them Organically! 

The other parent

I have been personally asked to address the following issue by quite a few parents in my community.
***Is the other parent competent? Are you co-parenting with someone who is mentally ill or a substance abuser? *** If so then Click Here and immediately start to regain control of the situation.

The store screamers!

Is it me or does anyone else in Tucson hear the way children throw tantrums when they don't get what they want by full blown screaming and crying which happens now in most major stores and restaurants here in town in frequent. Whats next throwing things ?

How to get any child to listen...

I know most of you think the title itself is an impossible that should not even be mention more less actually indulged. The scariest word in the title of course is any child since most of us feel we can get our own children to listen. A few keys to success are still basic as well as time proven. Remember the children don't change; the times and environment do. Yet like adults virtually every child is unique so there is no one way to deal with every child. every child should be dealt with accordingly and this means taking the time to get to know your kids first. As with a skill the more you know about it the more confident you become in doing it repeatedly. I honestly don't know to this day if I as a child was able to deceive my mother (and she wont admit it!) simply because she knew me better than i knew myself at that time. I was the child and she was the adult, there was hierarchy in my home. I was her child and like with everything else she owned she knew me inside out. The best piece of advice i can give you is to start learning while they're young! The older they get the harder it is to form any kind of bond between the two of you. This is Cassius' Daddy signing off and remember... GET TO KNOW YOUR CHILDREN!