I'm Here

               As the title suggest I'm here and always has been for my son I mean. .We come to another cross roads in life, a hard one the kind that do well with. All that's needed now is the truth nothing more. The honesty of communication will patch the bridge where it needs to patched. The roadway of communication will be strengthened and everyone will receive as well as give adequate fair information.
                The optimistic point of view will be utilized early and often in situations that involve trust and commitment. "I'm here" is a term to be used and understood  in all aspects of fatherhood. As long as a child knows that his father is there he will always as though the possibilities are limitless, as long he knows. When you can relay to your son that you will be there always in all aspects mentally, physically and spiritually then it is my belief that they will go from a point of dependence to one of imitation. The transformation this is manhood in it's earliest form. And remember that imitation is in fact the sincerest form of flattery.

Skate, Shop and Live!

The new motto for teens today as told to me by my own son. Is this is all we as parents have to live for; to work, pay and feed? I'm still waiting on an answer.

The definition of it...

                        As a father to what extent do we give? The more I learn as a father the more I see as a man. I don't know if I could have really understood the sacrifices my own father made had I not become one myself. I mean this on many different levels as having somebody that YOU are responsible for really changes perspective on life. A life lived up to that point solely for you. For me it was the first time I really got to see a part of me. This was my son and I was his father and it would be this way for the rest of our lives.
                         As a man to what extent does our fatherhood reflect on our manhood? Does it really take a man to raise a boy? I personally don't know. I would have ask then... who was ready to be a father.  Trick question as no man is ready to be a father. Only when you see you do began to realize that it is the most unique experience a man will ever have. This is when all of your self-serving planning has been deemed useless. All of the motivation you once had for self sustaining reasons have now changed direction. You are a father.

A FATHER AND SON CREATING AND CULTIVATING A RELATIONSHIP

Well it's been a while but I'm back! I'm ready to write from a new perspective. I believe I'm in the transition phase of going from Cassius' Daddy to Cassius' father. The change itself is very interesting in itself as I have little or no control over it's progress or direction. I can just sense the the difference in values as time move on. The things that were once a high priority can now be demoted while things that were not a factor before suddenly not only matter but matter a great deal.

As a daddy me and my son did things together as a way of bonding. As a father we interact on more of a man to man level. As my son continues to grow in size so does his curiosity. The time is at hand where he must get the proper advice on how to be who he is to be when the time comes. As his father as a man I have an obligation to provide to the best of my ability these answers to satisfy his curiosity. Since the down side would be him finding out without me. As this world we live in is a cold place. It could easily wipe away my Cassius without a trace.

As I stated before things are very interesting as they change. I personally appreciate the parental perspective. Remembering the same time in life when the “shoe was on the other foot” so to speak is a very humbling yet helpful experience. This is the time we call our own parents and express the “full circle” of life as we can now both appreciate and relate to them as parents. Closure has been granted. The veil has been ripped away the bigger picture can now be viewed. As parents ourselves we understand now why own parents did the things they did. Which to use back then as kids made no sense. To one day have kids of your own and understand actions of your own parents could be defined as a definite point of maturity in life or simply payback!

As we interact and reciprocate from one another I truly believe that me and my son will develop a relationship that will culminate into the one thing I desire most with him, a friendship. As I already both know and take for granted that I am already both “hip and cool” I am simply waiting on him to catch up to the rhythm.