Child Support...A Daddy's Perspective

Can  A Daddy get a fair break on Child Support

     It has been sometime since I had to deal with this issue and I don't miss it. Unfortunately it only seems to be getting worse. As I speak with fathers today they are seemingly going through the same issue, child support. The majority of the fathers I spoke with told me the courts had not updated their records sometimes for decades. Now what this means is your standard of living may have changed in either direction. Now for some reason whenever a father standard of living changes in the positive direction where he earns more than the last time there was an official "review" by the child support courts. The mother does an excellent job of informing the courts that the father is indeed to have support payments increased. Yet when the fathers standard of living declines no one is the wiser. And there can be many legitimate reasons for such a thing to happen. You could become disabled and lose all source of revenue as you are unable to work. Yet even though this happens if you the father don't follow (to the letter) this long tedious and sometime expensive process to have your case "reviewed" your payments still stack up arrears.I find it almost impossible to have these arrears waived or removed even if you show cause to the court. It has happened in a few cases I've researched but not a lot. 
    The secret is to file for both joint legal and physical custody of your child. The mom is not going to like it and it  maybe a fight. Joint is just that Joint everything down the middle. In my opinion there's a better chance of going for joint custody than letting years of arrears stack up on you. As they will get their money! I have seen child support being deducted from SSDI Disability! So depending on the circumstances try and file for visitation and Summer custody as well. If this is plausible as far location and resources is concerned. So make sure you stay on top of your child support situation as they can get out of had very quickly plus the fact that each state seems to different laws on the subject. So when/if the mother takes the child and heads out of state make sure you keep the "Venue" where you are.

Hopes this helps
Cassius' Daddy

I'm Here

               As the title suggest I'm here and always has been for my son I mean. .We come to another cross roads in life, a hard one the kind that do well with. All that's needed now is the truth nothing more. The honesty of communication will patch the bridge where it needs to patched. The roadway of communication will be strengthened and everyone will receive as well as give adequate fair information.
                The optimistic point of view will be utilized early and often in situations that involve trust and commitment. "I'm here" is a term to be used and understood  in all aspects of fatherhood. As long as a child knows that his father is there he will always as though the possibilities are limitless, as long he knows. When you can relay to your son that you will be there always in all aspects mentally, physically and spiritually then it is my belief that they will go from a point of dependence to one of imitation. The transformation this is manhood in it's earliest form. And remember that imitation is in fact the sincerest form of flattery.

Skate, Shop and Live!

The new motto for teens today as told to me by my own son. Is this is all we as parents have to live for; to work, pay and feed? I'm still waiting on an answer.